Dear Fat People....

From:

BEAUTY FLAT#101

FatIsFine Street

Curvy Girls Roundabout

FSIB 143, UK.

February 20, 2017

To:

Body Shaming Institute of Useless Media And Tech.

Opposite “The Body Shop”, FSIB 101

UK.

SUBJECT: Resp. “DEAR FAT PEOPLE…”

Dear Mr. /Ms,

You dear society will tell me that if I’m fat, I’m worthless and lazy, that I do not deserve to live a life just like any other. That I won't get a man who is wayyyy out of my league, because they are reserved for.....beautiful?... yes, beautiful people. You know; the ones who are tall and skinny, ones who have their collar bones sticking out from their chest ,slim waists and a perfect thigh gap. Generation to generation we are conditioned to think that those are the only things that make a person pretty and worthy of being seen on television, social media and fashion magazines. You say fat people do not belong in that world. I have been told  "wear big shirts and baggy jeans, don't show your waist or back" . The type of clothes that cover every inch of my body, it seems that I’m not cut out for designer crop tops and short sleeves. It’s become clear that clothing stores do not cater to physiques such as mine. Just the word “FAT” sounds so negative and mean. It’s as if the media refuses to accept that people like me are also part of society. I mean its one thing to say that we do not fit into the model industry but to ignore us completely; it’s obscene. Why is this so dangerous you ask??  It is because of the impact it has on people mentally. It creates insecurity and destroys one’s self esteem. The world focuses so much on body size, I started looking at myself differently. I felt more conscious...filled with guilt I started watching what I eat,  dark thoughts keeping me up in my sleep. I could no longer think clearly. It’s everywhere I’d go, in the shops, at college, or the library. People shame so much and I blame myself for the hate that they speak. But I heard it so often that I started to believe. That I deserved all this hate. Thinking to myself that, “Maybe...maybe?..just , maybe the problem is me…”

People around me has made me feel like a prisoner in my own body. From a young age girls and boys grow up hating the body that they are in, and if they don't they still feel guilty when they binge like they have committed a sin. They think how if just for one day they could understand how it felt to be thin. Believing that that would take all their problems away when in reality it just does not work that way.  It would be just another cycle where you’d go over and over; one time loop of endless misery. I know we are obsessed with body size; there are countless videos online on how to lose weight quickly. That is so unhealthy.  It seems we are led to believe that if we are skinny, our lives would magically fall into place. But that's enough! What defines me is my character you know?...my thoughts and opinions, they way I look at life. And NOT my weight. 

We have become merely a generation where we starve ourselves thin, so consumed by expectations, external validation and self-hate. Society makes you feel like you are not good enough, just because you don’t look a certain way. All these fashion/runway models look so perfect on the outside, but inside, they are empty. This is all a game society has made. If I want to lose weight; I’ll do it the healthy way by following a balanced diet and excercising to help my body naturally progress. Please don't get me wrong I’m not encouraging excessive eating but I don’t see how fat shaming people is helping either ways. It's time you realize that spreading “BODY POSITIVITY” is not encouraging “OBESITY”. Allow people, once in their life to feel proud and love their own bodies without feeling ashamed or guilty. Don't we all deserve to be happy?

Sincerely yours,

A Fat Person.